Is it wrong to not invite a few "close" friends to the wedding if they've changed?

Question by GettinHitched 10-2-11: Is it wrong to not invite a few "close" friends to the wedding if they've changed?
I have two friends in particular and I love them as friends. They're both a part of my large group of friends that we do stuff with on a fairly regular basis. The problem is that over the years, while most of us in that group have grown up some and matured (we're all between 28-34), 2 of my girlfriends from this group have said or done things that really bother me.

For example, when my FH and I first started dating, he got me an iPod as a graduation/birthday present within the first 3 weeks of meeting me. When one of the two girls heard about this, she said that I didn't care about him, I just cared about the money he came with.

The other girl is always comparing herself to her girlfriends. This is nothing new, but the fact that she still does it after over 10 years out of HS really bothers me. She is starting to comment on my taste in clothes and says, "Come on K. I'm going to take you shopping. You have to give me at least SOME competition." and she is just a very vain person. She's what we call a butter-face.

Now, my conundrum. I know these are not reasons to stop being friends with somebody, but they've both said and done much more than what I listed here. These are just 2 examples of a bigger picture. I don't want them in or at my wedding, and I also don't want anybody's feelings hurt. Originally we were very close friends, but over the years, those two girls have grown apart from the rest of the group. By not inviting them, will they even find out about the wedding? If so, do you think this will ruin any little tidbit of a friendship we had left? I really don't care if we stay friends or not, but I don't want it to be akward at group get-togethers.


Best answer:

Answer by Sunshine again
if you don't want them there and for good reason then no they shouldn't be there. just don't invite them and if they find out just say it was small and you could only invite close friends you still see all the time. or if your having a big wedding you can say "yeah the wedding was getting far to big so we had to invite really close people to us and that meant i wasn't able to invite everyone and if i invited you guys that would have meant i had to invite joshua's (FH name) other friend to, i hope you guys understand"

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